Many hold that the most sacred relationship is between mother and daughter, father and son—parent and child. But that just isn’t always the case. Sure, that girl’s best friend could be her mom: they go everywhere together, they share the same wardrobe, they would never keep a secret from one another. Or yeah, maybe she really is daddy’s little girl. She loves her dad more than anything and has lived her entire life under his safe, loving wing. But that’s just one narrative. There’s also a less fortunate one—one many would very much like to be excluded from (in the famous words of Taylor Swift). These are the stories about kids who were left on a random doorstep. The daughter that was left to pay her way in life at just 13 because her mother couldn’t care less. The children who are abused everyday by the two people that are supposed to love and care for them infinitely—so they’ve heard. While these may just be stories to some of us, it’s reality for a lot of angry, hurt, and confused kids. Kids who consequently have a lot of hate in their heart.
It’s completely normal, and expected really, to despise your parents when they’ve abused or abandoned you. Or even if they’ve never laid a hand on you but held you to unrealistic expectations or forced you to live a life you don’t desire. In instances of the like, it simply makes sense to have negative feelings toward them. It’s okay to feel this way. But say they’re perfect parents: the kind of cookie-cutter parents that are cast in feel-good movies. And despite their dedication to raising you and loving you as their child, you don’t feel that same love for them. Is that normal? This isn’t as common, but that doesn’t mean you’re abnormal. There is most likely a hidden reason behind these negative feelings and the best way to combat them is to get to the bottom of it. The following are possible underlying causes for your seemingly unwarranted hate:
- Desire for independence. You may simply desire or be seeking more independence and your relationship with your parents is consequentially suffering. This typically happens a lot with age. When I moved back home for the summer after my freshman year of college, I expected a greater degree of independence and a lesser degree of rule enforcement from my dad. However, it was as if I returned to my home as a teenager in high school. This definitely caused a rift in my dad and I’s relationship, and had we not respectfully talked about the issue, it could still be suffering today.
- Phase of rebellion. A lot of teenagers go through a period of rebellion and parents never know the best way to handle it—it’s tricky and also troublesome because it can either strengthen or (more often than not) taint the relationship. If parents respond with punishment and scorn, then it can certainly result in the child’s loathing.
- Media exposure. Your relationship can even be affected by the type of TV shows or movies you’re watching. You may see a slightly different or better relationship portrayed on screen and wish that your mom or dad was more like it. This can lead to unrealistic expectations, similarly to watching couple’s act out the perfect love story on screen.
- Differing morals and/or lifestyles. While our parents typically raise us with their ideals as the backbone of our growth, we don’t always take after their belief systems or lifestyles. This can absolutely cause a strain in your relationship if they object to your choices or if your differences are so varying that they create big issues. For example, a family that is devoutly Catholic may have a problem with their son declaring he doesn’t believe in God.
Celebrities: They’re Not So Different After All
Celebrities are like us in more ways than they are not. This includes sometimes maneuvering through life without parents or experiencing something that tore their relationship with them apart. Here are a few well-known celebrities that followed their dreams and reached success without the help of their mom, their dad, or both:
- Adele: While the soulful singer and her father may have recently reconnected, Adele didn’t have a relationship with him for much of her life, as he abandoned her and the rest of her family when she was just two years old.
- Beyonce Knowles: Beyonce Knowles has reportedly never gotten along with her father, nor has her sister or mother. He allegedly has attempted to use both his daughters’ talents to benefit himself.
- Kelly Clarkson: Kelly Clarkson opened up about her damaged relationship with her absentee father during a performance of “Piece by Piece” on American Idol. While Kelly’s saddened by their relationship, or lack thereof, she’s thankful for her husband’s love for the couple’s own daughter.
- Macaulay Culkin: The Home Alone star became estranged from his parents during their divorce when they reportedly argued over Macaulay’s fortune. This greed and hunger for money certainly drove a wedge between him and his family.
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I absolutely despise my parents. They annoy me so much. They always do the shit that will frustrate me on purpose, invade my privacy, bug me constantly, they never keep promises, they always lose or break my things, they like my brother more than me, they blame me for everything, they treat me and my brother way differently, and I hate it. I want to move out so bad.
holy cow me exactly the same besides that they break my things otherwise the samee
Same with me dude .i also wanna move out so bad..!!
My parents suck
They are homophobic, they hate my crush for no reason, and they are always on my back. I HATE THEM! They are the reason I have panic attacks and why I hate my life, I wish I was like other girls who have parents that treat them like they aren’t kids. My parents are Arse holes
This is so true I feel completely the same they act as if it’s your fault youre a failure when they lower you self-esteem by judging you by your grades in school. And bending you the way they want you to be I just hate them
My parents just blackmail me. I hate it
My father blackmails me a lot, and I want to leave as soon as possible.
same
I feel the exact same way this is exactly true
I hate my mom and my dad they Hit me and hurt and l hate my family and Get my phone and iPad
My dad hit and in the leg but hard and it hurt then my dad laugh of me crying
I am absolutely sick to death of my parents telling off and nagging and getting harsh and mad at cross at me for things I do by accident or isn’t exactly my fault or doesn’t directly affect anybody and just how I like to have things and saying this for my own good and for the best no matter how much it pisses me off. I hate that they’re nasty cuz they love me and caring about me by being mean I hate them so much I wish I was never their daughter I can’t wait to leave home and never see them again unless the really need me. I don’t ever want to have kids myself cuz you’ll clearly treat them the way the way you didn’t like your parents treating you and they yoy I hate anyone expecting and saying I will acting like marriage just had to happen to me and having negative attitudes about staying single and living alone as well. And thinking they can still boss me around and force their principles on me even tho I’m an adult. Asian n muslim parents are especially the worst I’m sick of our religion telling me to respect and be kind to them too no matter how badly they treat me like my feelings don’t matter just cuz I’m the kid mum carrying me for 9 mths and giving birth to me and both raising me doesn’t make them any less human so they can still be bad to me like any other I don’t care why they’re like that either reasons make their attitudes carry on I have every right to be mad and hate them to bits
Eaxctly, I felt that. Honestly, I just stopped caring at some point. Still don’t. I hold a personal grudge on my dad, and my mom seems to only take his side. My grades dropped from straight A’s to F’s. Don’t really care though, like I said. It’s whatever. I just started to rebel after a while. Smoking weed, Drinking, s* like that. Yeah, just things anybody does to p* their parents off. Today, my parents just checked my grades and yes, they got majorly p* off, my dad even threatened me, you know, “If I see you on anything, besides your school work, I’m going to beat the living s* out of you,” nothing I’m not used to. It’s not necessarily frustrating. I’m just annoyed. I’m finna move out soon, live my own life. It’s whatever. There’s nothing I can do, just finna keep rebelling though. They do yell a lot, not at each other buh at me. They just set their expectations too high. They really expected me to be a people pleaser. Well, all I gotta say is that I don’t like my mom. Hate my dad. Only like one of my siblings. The other 2 I hate as well. Buh yeah. So, just rebel I guess. That’s exactly what I am doing. Or, you can just talk to them, which I get never works, bc every damn time I try I know all they got to do is yell at me. Buh you know just rebel.
I get the exact same thing i wish they aborted me ages ago from the bottom of my heart to the top of my heart so i did not have to put up with this all the time my sister makes up lies so i always get the blame and when the blame goes on her she cries and the blame gets put on me its just a circle of hell that i want to escape so much i cant wait to leave this hell hole my mum will annoy me by saying something 1000 times and i will say OK then she will say it another 100 times so i lose it and say shut up then my dad tells me to not say that to your mum and i say she said it 100 times and he does not belie me then shouts at me and once again it goes on me
Exact same thing, but my dad and mom both say it 1000000 times, and i walk out of the room, a phone goes flied at my head(IT HURTS!!!!!)
This is me it happens to me
the same things with me too. and also I’m 12 years old, I love my dad, but he left because of my mom. and for that, I already don’t like her. then, she expects me to do perfectly in school because my older sister gets perfect grades. I also can’t talk to one of my friends who has helped me deal with a lot of things so she says “well, sometimes we lose touch with people and there’s nothing we can do about it”. she barely even reacted. didn’t even try to make me feel better. There are plenty more things like her never wanting to hear my side of the story in an argument, her taking away my phone and sending it back to the company because I was on it once in class because I barely got any time on it at home, and also the time that she made me take everything except the furniture out of my room and into her closet, she makes me do the chores my sister doesn’t do as punishments and takes away the things that make me happy in an effort to make me not be upset. my dad has hit me before and sure I was angry at him then but now I realize it wasn’t all that bad. I miss him and have no way of contacting him but there’s nothing I can do. really, I just want the people in my life to be able to be there when I need them and the others to actually care. I’m sorry for making you read all that but I just needed to tell someone.
I really like a crazy girl.i always want to be an independent girl.i am 16 but my parents do not act like that. They always treat me badly. I feel very very very bad like i want to do suicide. But believe me,, i want to live.. I want to live… I wanna fly but don’t wanna be stop. I want to see the whole world.i want to feel about the past the world have.i want to see the future.i want to feel people…all kinds of people…i want to feel their mind.if i die…i will lose. But i need more and more courage.. In my lifetime i want to live some years in hills…some years in the ocean.. Some years in desert.. Want to see whole creatures! I like the insects..
I want a buddy like me who likes my passion… With him or her i wanna expose our desire… I want to help the poor people..i have not much money but i wanna do something really
….i am very adventures.. I Don’t want to lead a luxurious life but wanna live in an adventures life… I need support…. please help me with some courage!
Hi Sumaiya, I read your comment and I just had to respond because I definetely feel that way too!! I am also trying to be independant, but my parents also do not let me, they are very controlling and judgemental. I resent them for that.
I am so sorry your parents are treating you badly. You sound like a kind and awesome person. My heart feels for you. I really understand your desire to explore, your desire to experience new things and to just be free in doing that. There is so much to see and learn about in the world, and that is amazing, right !? 🙂
Please keep holding on. Believe it or not, you are already so strong for dealing with your situation. I too, want you to see past your world, and for you to explore life as you wish ! I want you to see the whole world.
If theres any advice I can offer, it is to make a plan to leave your parents as soon as you can. For example, is there anyway for you to get a job, or do you have to wait until you are an adult? Will you be going to college? If so then that is one way to get on a path to being independant and feeling secure.
I hope my comment gave you some courage. I believe in you and hope things will become better for you.
Don’t worry there are people who are willing to listen your story and will try to help you
I feel you dude!!
i wish my mom did that but shes really conservative and she bings jesus into everything. im loosing faith because the bible just seems so inconsistant to me. and she uses it as threats to get to me. she body shames me and my sister, she tells us to eat less becuase we are on the more less than average side. and my dad on the other hand, i absolutely dislike him. i woke up late today and he started screaming at me and i just wanna die. my birthday just came and my uncle was going to give me a new phone for my birthday. but now i have to go tell him to cancel the order becuase of today. i had my old phone since the 4th grade, its really old and doesnt work as well anymore. you could just hav imagined my excitement knowing my rusty old phone isnt gonna be with me anymore. but no. also, we bought two puppies last month on october 31. he threatned to give them away. i didnt even get to stay with them for a whole month yet. i hate my ife becasue my life already sucks because school. i dont have th ebest grades, but thats my fault because im a bit lazy. i just wanna die becuase i always have to wonder why i mess everything up. i get so close to getting something but i always manage to ruin everything for myself.
I am 52 my mother is 72 so this comment, in theory could be a series! I’ll try to make this short as possible! My mother lives with me, set up as temporary! She finally quit drugging and drinking! However has lost any lust for life, our living arrangements are this my daughter and I love each other and have a healthy relationship! I think? Lol
Anyway my daughter son in law and 4 grandchildren, bought a house all together, with detached studio for me! Well my mother was going to end up on the streets and we couldn’t let that happen so with rules she was too stay temp! Look for a suitable place! It’s hard places now days are hard to come by! Well without going into detail she fell off wagon and constantly being an annoyance with habits, and now falsely accusing me and my daughter of extortion? And abuse with me!Wow! So we’re right in the middle of clearing our names and her getting assistance from Gov programs? To move her out! She keeps turning down viable rentals, because she won’t be able to smoke pot! I have a younger sister who will not get involved, at all no help! Once again I feel like that 16 year old girl who went to a foster home twice! Trapped and controlled by a terrorist! My mother!
My younger brother wants my help with our 77 yo terrorist mother. You’re the one that took her in. Learn a lesson, never again. I won’t help.
oh my god! me too!! as in the, parents always bringing in religion part. They keep asking me to pray and what i want will come true. and i know i may sound condescending or entitled but i’ve been praying for things for almost my whole life and i dont see any of it even coming true to the slightest. i feel that if god has wanted to help me, he would have done it a long time ago, i seriously have no hope for my religion anymore and tbh its pretty disappointing.
im so done.
My parents go out of their way to annoy me. I’m sick of it. I actually am scared of them to the point that even if I have an explanation for something, I don’t say it because they don’t listen. Like the other night, me and my little sister could not sleep, and I had to go to the bath room. Our room is right next to our parents, and our parent’s room as a bathroom. The other bathroom is way down the other end of the house, so I went to my parents bath room instead. My little sister went with me, (She is very clingy) so i went to the bath room, I wanted to see what time it was, so I went over to my mums phone. MY mother never had an issue with us looking at her ohine to see what time it was, so I assumed everything would be fine. But my mother woke up, ranted, told my sister she could not attend her best friend’s birthday party, and then called me a disappointment. I was so upset. I have to go back to my therapist again soon, and its going to be only my second appointment, but, the first time I went, she told my father that she thought I had a LOT of anxiety. Turns out all the yelling and screaming didn’t help us kids, it just hurt us, I told the therapist about my family, and she offered my parents a parenting course. My parents are still too proud to admit that they gave me my anxiety, in fact they say, ” Well if you don’t us to yell, how about you don’t act up?” I mean come on dude, IM 10 years old and I’m already worried about my future because of my parents. I don’t need this c*.
bro, I feel the same way
I just want to play on the computer and all those fun stuff other kids do, but my mom never lets me. I do all the stuff she tells me to and do chores, BUT SHE DOESN’T APPRECIATE IT. All she does she lowering my self-esteem, threatening me and “discipline’s” me even though i already understood what to so and what not to do, most of it was because of accident’s and i forget things a lot. What bad parenting, i feel like it would’ve been better if i died at birth.
I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through. If you are at risk of hurting yourself or others, please immediately call 911 or go to the nearest Crisis Center or Emergency Room.
My mom is so naggy and always invades my privacy. She believes she has some sort of right to do that. She does all of the above points. I hate her!
I can relate so much! Whenever I am doing anything on the computer that isn’t straight up studying I get yelled at and called a disappointment. I already try so hard to both keep my mom happy and keep my grades up but every time she isn’t pleased I basically get called a “lazy a*” or “horrible” or “awful” or an “idiot”. I’m so tired of being treated like I’m just an arbitrary thing for her to take her anger out on. When I try to talk to her all she does is stare at her computer screen and not even look at me. And whenever she tells my dad she exaggerates whatever I did to such an extent that he literally starts ignoring me! I just want to get out of their house. She doesn’t even realize how low my self esteem has become.
That’s exactly what happens with me! She forces me to give up my phone to check it and then gets mad when I have a journal on there to vent about how much I hate her, it was her own fault for going on their in the first place! I can’t wait to move out, she will never get a relationship with me or my kids after that.
My parents never let me go out they have me locked up im tired of this is it legal for them to never let me go out like neverr im always locked up i cant even go in the backyard im so tired of this they always scream at me and hit me
Falls on the floor Thinking Now i’m lying on the cold, hard, ground!
gen z is a deppressed gang lol
That’s ong
welcome to the world
Same here. You’re not alone. They also think I’m the Flash because every goddamn second they say “Come here.”
I say I’m coming and walking out of my room, and a second later, they yell at me “We said come here!” I say I’m coming again but louder, and I’m only just grabbing the doorknob, and then “COME HERE!!”
“I SAID IM COMING!! IM HERE!!”
I get slapped and scolded.
yeah dude! i totally feel u.
They scream at us all the time and expect us to still be happy and grateful for what we have in life. And when we try to explain ourselves to them, they’ll take it as an unusual bad behavior. I’m not mad or anything. I’m just sad… that i can’t even express how i truly feel to them. Whenever i do that, it feel pointless. My mom won’t listen, and always said that i’m ungrateful crazy kids that have no brain at all. Somehow i wish i could disappear from this house. And i also hate it, when parents can say bad words to each other when they got mad. like a REAL BAD and HURTFUL sentences.Towards each other, or towards me. it’s like, they are totally free to express how they feel. And it f* hurts. And when i do the same, she will said the most hurtful things to me that has no relation at all from what i was saying. it’s tiring and unfair. Am i being too much???
This is exactly how I feel. Even though I’m not the “perfect” child, I’m always yelled at. I feel like they love my siblings better and I’ll never catch up. It’s honestly my dream to move out at 16. I feel like I can never talk about my feelings because whenever I do, they always turn EVERYTHING on me. I also want to rebel against so many things they’ve taught me just to show they cant control me and every aspect of my life. I just hate living so much.
We’re so sorry to read what you’re going through. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, or thinking about hurting yourself or others, please seek immediate help. Call 911, go to your closest emergency room, or call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. You can also visit their website at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. This national network of local crisis centers provides free support, and someone is always available to talk.
You can also find a list of other helpful resources here, such as the Crisis Text Line, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and more. Remember, life can get better with the right help. https://twx.atlantacounseling.com/immediate-help/
exactly what the hell. my mum and dad calls me stupid and a pig but when i get mad at my dad for blowing up at me for using my phone for a while on the toilet (because what the hell else am i supposed to do while taking a dump, stare at the blank wall? isnt it better for me to read my stuff online???) i call him dumb and immediately im “disrespecting him” SHE LITERALLY ASKED HIM TO SLAP ME, like what??? so its ok for u to call me that but not for me to say that in a fit of anger?? are u serious? they make me so infuriated and confused.
i’m so sorry!
my parents blame me for everything they never support me whenever something wrong happens with my but even once if i do something that is like 1% wrong the world ends and they compare me to drug dealers and what not. they even blame me if my sister does anything wrong saying that i am influencing her. i try my best but its never good enough for them. mind you i am a suicidal person i have around 20 deep cuts on my right hand i have starved myself for 2-3 days and tried to hang myself but my parents are so inconsiderate about my feelings they have not even noticed ill probably succeed in one of my sucicde attempts soon.
I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through. If you are at risk of hurting yourself or others, please immediately call 911 or go to the nearest Crisis Center or Emergency Room. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline, available 24 hours a day: Call 1-800-273-8255
same..tbh i’ve wanted to move out since 2 years ago
i honestly don’t have any love for them
Bruh same tho
Be grateful you have ANY parents!!!!!!!!!!!!
I mean though while being an orphan is sad, if you grow up in a loving home with adopted parents, it’s better than being in an abusive home without love. Why would I be grateful for abusive parents?
Easily said when you think that everyone are getting the love you’ve got…
Look at what Koki Mona said and think about it.
I will never be grateful for being in a dark room all alone as a child.
My cousin was taking me to the beach but my parents were using the “going to work” as an excuse all the time.
My mother used the “you made me do it” as an excuse once she hit my head with the vacuum cleaner.
My father never said “sorry” for any of the harsh words he keeps using even nowadays and never apologized for punishing me cause “I looked him bad”.
I want you to THINK before typing your selfish comment because many of us were beaten and insulted all their lives.
Now I am 27 years old and I have problem with communicating with people.
I am scared and can’t trust anyone.
I have failed in life because there was nobody there for me when I was a child.
Look on the internet for “toxic parents” and try to get into our shoes.
When I was a teenager I was finally able to get my own room and yet my mom came to sleep on my bed…
They kept calling me a “poop” and always blamed me for things I’ve never done while pointing at me and looking me with pure hatred.
I don’t care what you gonna say cause I am still waiting for the monsters to get old enough and kick the bucket so I can start my life being FREE.
I live in a corrupted country so I have to choose between ending my life or just throwing it all away just as my parents wanted.
Make sure to look at people who were beaten for no reason and THINK because being selfish doesn’t make you smart.
DUDE EXACTLY.. can’t keep privacy.. keep checking on me.. and ugh I searched up only cuz… my parents found out I was chatting a girl.. and that’s pretty normal cuz I do.. but my parents take my phone EVERYTIME they see me use it.. like wtf WHY?!.. they also like checked my private chats and I can’t even stay in my room with the door closed.. I need help.. please I’m 15 and I NEED AN ADVICE OR SOMEONE TO TALK TO
My parets keep a phone tracker that shows whatever I do. I feel like they’ve completely destroyed my trust. I would recommend talking to them and if that doesn’t work (Probably wont :/) Talk with a close friend asap or start writing down how you feel. I promise getting your feelings out there will help 100% of the time.
I’ve been having problems with my parents trust I’ve been doing my best in school but it’s not my fault the internet stops working and stuff my dad keeps hitting me because he thinks I’m doing something else instead of being on school WHEN I’M LITTERLAY NOT IM WRITTING THIS ON MY FLIPPIGN BREAK! I do all my things when I’m done with my work or when I finish everything I have to do I’ve been keeping all these emotions with me yet I feel like I shouldn’t and that I should express myself but every
time I tell my parents how I feel they take it as a joke and say,” BAH.Stop being stupid that’s nothing.” I just feel like I have no one that will trust me not even my brothers trust me I know this is nothing compared to you guys but I can’t stop being mad and annoyed about how my parents don’t trust me.
Me too, like the exact same thing. I feel like my parents couldn’t care less if I ran away or stayed. I want to run away, but I know I won’t make it out alive on my own. If I ever came back, life would just be even worse. I don’t know what to do but crying in the toilet or crying yourself to sleep are good ways to release emotions…at least for me.
We’re so sorry to read what you’re going through. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, or thinking about hurting yourself or others, please seek immediate help. Call 911, go to your closest emergency room, or call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. You can also visit their website at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. This national network of local crisis centers provides free support, and someone is always available to talk.
You can also find a list of other helpful resources here, such as the Crisis Text Line, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and more. Remember, life can get better with the right help. https://twx.atlantacounseling.com/immediate-help/
Hi, this is to all the kids who are in abusive homes and want to leave. Focus on your dreams and goals. If your parents allow get a part time job and begin to save for your first apartment. Focus on what you want to be and steps you can take now to get there. You need to learn to drive, afford a used but reliable car. But don’t stop at your part time job. Spend time at your career center. Consider college or trade schools. Do clubs with positive people…see if you can graduate early.
This moment will pass in a blink of an eye. I know it is hard but do not lose sight of the life and relationships you dream of.
I am sorry for all you have to go through and encourage you to find good supports, safe people to talk to and keep focused on your vision for your life.
My heart is broken reading so many kids share their struggles.
Thank you for this advice Temporary, it is very helpful. I hope you are doing well!
I’m soul crushingly dissapointed in my parents on the things they say/do to me. I just like to think that the things they did to me to make me feel as terrible as i feel right now is for the best. So i never get to treat another human like that especially my future kids.
trust me, i go thru worst. its not ez. i suffer too. tho i have no freedom, sometimes the best thing to do is to ignore them. dont say anything, no matter how much they want u to. lock urself in ur room, and do what makes u happy. all parents damage there children. just remeber, that when u (if u do) have children one day, to never treat them the hurt ur facing. 🙂 Stay strong.
You’re not alone on any of that. That’s actually literally how I feel
I’m sorry for all you guys and I hope your life gets better :< I've been having problems in my house but not like actual abuse but just problems of low self esteem and just wanting to run away from all this hell hole that I live in I had many fight with my brothers but when they hit me and I hit them back my parents say just to tell them and nothing will happen to me but whenever i did my brothers would ignore me and make me angry faces and say things to me like ass hole and i would just try to not cry. My parents when I tell them that I'm sad because, of the kids in my class yelling and teasing me they just say ignore them but I can't and also my parents they hit me when I just mess up even for the most small thing they hit me with the belt or even a shoe or with wooden sticks it hurts real bad and my dad hit me on the wrist with a wooden stick. I've been having enough I've been crying I've been screaming. And when we were moving my dad got mad at me and yelled and took off his belt and he started to pull me but i pulled back and I almost hit my head on my bed and i started to cry and pull back and be in the corner where my bed was. He just said to leave me there and I just cried looking at the floor with my tears dripping.
HOLY- I need to tell you this. That is straight up ABUSE.
I KNOW RIGHT, it’s so annoying, like they put my college fund, all onto my brother, so he has over 100k and i only have $50 in mine.
I am 12 now and my parents still won’t even let me get my own spotify account! Or even watch youtube and talk on discord without their permission. I know how you feel. I feel like I’m being treated like a baby.
My parents don’t trust me with any websites they only let me on school web sites It’s not fair
Am sorry for you my mom picks on me and I even have to go to work when I am only 5 and my mom drinks and I now that is bad for her so now I have a better life with my step parents I have so much fun with them but I still love my mom a few years back when I was 5 now I have 12 my mom died and some people adopt me and I am safe and sound thank you to Alberto Rodrigez and Alicia Candelor Rodrigez thank you for your help.
i absoultely hate my parents. they treat me as if I don’t have any feelings at all and all they do is lower my self esteem. they constantly compare me with others without even considering how much that might hurt me. i get blamed everytime my little brother gets upset but whenever I get upset they think I have a mental illness ( im not against metal illnesses ). and when he does get upset, they comfort him or make him laugh with a joke, but when im upset they scold me and punish me. they yell and get mad at me for no apparent reason, and they are so restrictive. i can only be on school websites and I also cant watch youtube or something in my free time, which I totally understand but I sometimes wanna watch a how to video but cant even when I explain to my parents that im watching the video to learn how to do something. im always expected to get all As on my report card, and when I get something like a B+, I get asked why I got a B and they don’t even take into consideration my reasoning and just punish me like taking my phone away for a month or stand in the corner for 2 hours. I so desperately wish I could just die or cry over how miserable i m. i know it doesn’t sound that bad, but when i go through this and so much more in a day, i wish i was never alive. im sorry for writing this even though ik things could be so much worse but i just need to write this all down. im only 12 and i wish i could already just move out and be done with my family and my parents.
Believe me, you are not alone. My mom also yells and slap me so hard that I would have scars everywhere. She also once said I have a criminal intent JUST BECAUSE I HAD A SPLIT SECOND THOUGHT AND DIDN’T DO ANYTHING. And she once threatened me that if I watched Dhar Mann, I would get slapped on the but 1,000 times and would not have screen time until I was 18. She once even locked me for 1 hour and 47 minutes while my dad would be trying to get me out but she would say no. If I believe I will be a bad parent, I’m leaving this house.
Don’t get me wrong I know my parents love me but I am the first born and treated as a guinea pig. I hate this and my sisters (3 of them) know exactly how to get on my nerves. Sometimes this causes me to act out and my parents punish me for it. When I try to explain what happens they yell at me to be quiet and often belittle me. One time that I remember was when I took a vacation to California with my dad, it ended with me going home early because I dropped something at the beach and was called worthless in front of a ton of people. It has given me a small case of depression and I am thinking about seeing a therapist about it.
Same at times it’s just I have two brothers and I’m a twin. My brothers mess with me and break my things at times but when I try to defend myself my parents just get mad at me and like I said If I do tell on my brothers they sometimes push me or call me things and look at me rudely once I was upstairs and I was leaving my twins’ room because we were fighting he pushed me and kicked me. And out of nowhere when I leave my brother’s room my older brother kicks me and pushes me and I was about to fall down the stairs and so I hit him back but as I know my bigger brother has more force and strength. So he hits me on the back which left me a red mark and even hurts when people put a little pressure. I can’t resist my brothers anymore all they do is hit me and pull my hair. They are always hanging out together and I’m always left out. I don’t understand somethings they show me like how some memes are funny and how a person dies and flys across the room is funny. Whenever I do something bad to my brothers because they provoke me, my parents, just yell at me and hit me but when my brothers do it to me my dad sits down with them and talks about how they should respect me but they don’t even get punished like ME! I’m always being the princess who they have to take care of but they already know I can take care of myself at school whenever someone wants to fight me I always defend myself but if my brothers come in they just tell a teacher and I get in trouble EVEN IF I DID NOTHING WRONG! I’ve been treated so unfairly my parents punish me more and are very strict over my grades and how I dress they don’t like me wearing something that I don’t know what’s wrong with them! They don’t let me wear big shirts that fit me perfectly. They want me to wear tight dresses. Another thing is I barely eat they are saying that I’m too fat and that I weigh a lot! And they are always making jokes about me. I take off my mask in front of them almost every time and sometimes they would say why haven’t you taken your mask off? And I said I did! And my dad stared at me and said are you sure? And I just stared at him and went to my room. I could hear my dad laughing. To be honest, at times I just pray to God that I wasn’t even born. I know that these problems I have are a little but I just wanted to tell you guys. Thanks for reading this and understanding.I feel like I talked to much. I’m sorry
I AM a grown woman,35, and I can not stand either one of my parents. My mother hates on me…is that normal? Shes always comparing us to one another and I hate that! I am NOT YOU and YOU are NOT ME! She hates that I make more money than her,i’m a hustler, I dont know why shes like that, because I usually spoil my mom with things she NEEDS even if its decorating her apartment w new furniture! My dad is a street dude, hes always looking for his next opportunity to use and abuse the system and getting money from the govt. I hate that hes hungry for money and I dont know why people get so blinded by money as if its the most important thing in this world, especially my father but I have been that one person who almost always tries to remain positive, always willing to help my family because I thought I loved them, but I’m seeing that they don’t love me at all. They love to use me and tear me down. Aren’t parents suppose to help guide a child for the many obstacles life throws at them? I think my parents seriously failed this mission and it breaks my heart. What can I do different because right now I’m just staying away from them! I love ME more!
Stay positive! There aren’t enough people like you who can endure so many things and problems!
Trueeeeeeeeee i hate them. they always ruin my day with my friends. My sister is an absolute angel. She always listens to them but yet they still ruin her day. D:
I would like to say that I f* hate my parents. My mom and my dad always be f* cursing at me my mom says that I am a fat a* but she’s h* fat. Also my gay brother who is 8 is f* over weight and more heavier than like what the f* man. I haven’t even ate for 4 days I only drank water bottles because I thought we were suppose to save food. My mom is always yelling at me and accusing me for stuff like taking her stupid phone charger I don’t even have a phone. And every time she and my dad leave to go somewhere i’m like thank god but when they get back my legs literally shake. My mom and dad always threaten me that we will kick you out of the house and i’m starting to consider it . They also tell me to get good f* grades no let me rephrase that get start A+’s but i’m like I got honor roll f* two times what the f* they’re all b* even my brothers. I thought my older brother would understand but nah he’s a b*. I told him almost everything but he just told my parents I realized you can’t trust no one not even your own f* family.
my family moved to a different state, then took my contacts with my closest and only friends from where i used to live, its been a year and i refuse to make new friends and they still threaten me about taking my dog (which at this point is all i have left that joys me minor joy, not much though) and yet they are still clueless why i stay in my bedroom ALL DAY and not come out for even a second. they dont give me ANY support, i tell them a problem im having that WILL scar me and leave a mark in life and their normal answer is “I cant help you” or they make it about themselves. once I can drive and live somewhere FAR FAR FAR AWAY, that will be the very first thing on my to do list.
True dude they made me sit in one spot hearing a audio book for 21 hours straight
it annoys the hell out of me
either endure or leave them, no other choice
Just tell them not bothers u alot and that you will try to avoid them as much as possible unfortunately because you live them and you don’t want to take their anger out on them .. and tell them that you will ignore them at many instances and that it’s for the best of both . And that you will be locking your room to avoid your things being broken .. but say I love u and hug them and say it’s for the best.
My daddy is very scrict and I hate him
Dude i feel you
Hi, I know how you feel you should move out they will want you back but stay in your house that you bought.
Sincerely,
Yuro, Geim
Wow this REALLY hit the nail on the head. I can relate to practically all of this, as I’m 19 years old and still live with my parents. And I’m struggling with all of this.
Sometimes you can do everything right, and your children are just misguided and hateful. Add a crazy daughter in law in the mix. Add a crazy daughter in law, end of life as you know it.
Same. I’m 11, and want to move out so bad. I hate this
same i just got my phone taken away for being “rude” and not “helpful” when all i said was “what does it say?” like how is that even rude? i just want to move out already.
right i get my phone taken away for anything, im now starting to think that i might get it taken away for breathing. and most of the time their the ones provoking me into lashing out, sometimes i think its was they want. they want to punish me for anything. And the fact their so religious makes things so much hardrer on me. i just cant take it anymore, especially my dad, hes the enforcer of everything and my mom is little messenger. shes his little snitch. when the smallest things happen she will tell him in secret and discuss everything in secret and then punish me. and when i ask why they ignore me and get mad at me. i want to leave so bad, my rules, my way, i cant deal with them anymore.
At least all of you have a phone I’m 12 years old and in 7th grade yet my parents still wont let me have a phone. I can wait to move out and not have to deal with family. The only person in my family who knows what I’m going through is my older brother.
Sh same
my mom is annoying as h
At least you have a phone
I just told my mom i hate her in a really rude way i regret it so much and idk how to take things back, now i f* it all up and i wished i never existed i just want to disapear, iwish i was never born or even created.
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aaah, i just got almost a broken back cuz i just wrote something by mistake during online class, im 11 too D: I wish i could move out
My parents never let me go out they have me locked up im tired of this is it legal for them to never let me go out like neverr im always locked up i cant even go in the backyard im so tired of this they always scream at me and hit me
they should not do that. thats illegal!! call the police on them thats not good!!!
stay safe
Be careful about calling the police. I did that when I was 13 and got beaten to unconscious then couldn’t leave the basement for days with only two water and a log of bread snuck in by my brother.
oof i’m so sorry that happened.