Feeling Lonely? You Have the Power to Change Your Life – Therapists in Buffalo
Feeling lonely is one of the worst feelings in the world. It can be especially painful when it becomes a cycle that feels like it simply can’t be broken. When it feels like there’s no way to meet new people, improve current relationships, or ever stop feeling lonely, it can be near impossible to do anything about it. The truth is that you really do have the power to change your life.
Be realistic about your expectations
One of the most common reasons people fail when they try to do something about their loneliness is because they have unrealistic expectations. They may force themselves to sign up for a local group, show up for the meeting, and then be so disappointed when they don’t instantly make friends that they never return.
Remember that at its most basic level, loneliness is simply a mismatch between the relationships you have in your life and the relationships you want in your life. A counselor can help you understand what realistic expectations are and ways to check yourself to ensure you’re sticking to these expectations.
End the self-focusing
People who are lonely can become extremely self-focused. They can have a difficult time thinking beyond their own lives – and this can make the problem worse. Your counselor can help you understand that many things simply aren’t about you, even when it feels like they are. For example, if you invite a friend over for dinner and they say they have plans, it can feel like a rejection but in most cases it’s not – they simply had other plans.
Get the personalized plan you need to move forward
The best way to get a plan that’s specific to your needs and current situation is to work directly with a counselor. At Thriveworks Buffalo Counseling & Coaching we will take the time to get to know you and your needs. We’ll help you get to the bottom of the core issues leading to your loneliness. Together, you and your counselor will find the right treatment plan that could truly change your life.
