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I used to believe casual lying is totally normal, until these casual lying became more frequent, and became bigger lies. I remember I used to lie to my friends about my mom having an affair, when in reality my parents are just being annoyingly normal, and their marriage is close to perfect. I would go and tell them very detailed extravagant stories. They never found out I lied about it cause I said things were already getting better at home, and that they’re reconciling and s* before things got out of hand, and I’d get caught red-handed. That was the first time I got away with that big of a lie. And somehow, it was… I dunno, empowering? Realizing how I can easily dictate how other people around me perceive me. When I told that lie, I guess I wanted to seem… interesting? And I told this in a really small group of friends, and i liked how they’ve reacted and shown concern towards me after. It’s f* up, and it just got worse from there.

I’m literally such a big liar too. Like a lot of the times its to my family but like i don’t even think about others, myself, i just do it. And I don’t exactly regret it either until someone calls me out for it or catches me and yells at me. I lie about school and doing work so much, but the problem is that i actually do care about school, I just don;t want to do the work. I’ll end up learning everything but no putting in any effort and lying about doing the work. I don’t know if I’m a compulsive liar and its really affecting me and people close to me. What can I do to fix it because every time I talk about this with my family they just say stuff that doesn’t really help and I think I need professional help.

but it’s not for my own sake, rather for the sake of people around me. i lie about my mental health and well-being because i dislike when people worry about me being upset or being mentally unwell. i don’t like the attention, i just want to live normally and quietly without people worrying and pitying me for my minor inconveniences.

an example is me lying to my boyfriend about whether i’m hurt, or if i’m upset at him about something he did or is doing. in the end i just blame myself or let my anger or sadness build up inside me. i do this because i don’t think my problems or my happiness/sadness really matters, that i have no reason to rant or vent or really show when i’m down because everyone gets sad. why am i special?

so i just shut it in.

I think i’m going through something similar.
It’s good that we’ve recognized it though.

I’m wondering where you’re at right now. Whether you’ve overcome this or something else has happened. If you dont mind, could you tell me whats up?

It seems I have exactly the same problem.
I say my father lived a long way away from my current home because I disliked him so much. I also lied that I had skin cancer a couple of years ago to friends and even teachers at some point. Probably because I needed to lie rather than care though. Although care was also a massive +.
I’d say we’re both in the same situation here. I’d classify myself as a pathological liar, but at the same time I’ve lied more than this previously. How good are you at making them sound credible? I don’t think we need mental help for this. If you really want to be more truthful, then try finding one person in your life to whom you’ll only tell the truth. Not only that, but you’ll tell them that you lied to everybody else. Make sure they’re trustworthy and won’t disclose your lies without your consent. It’ll take a lot of guts, trust me. So. much. guts.
When you do do this though, you might find it easier to tell the truth to other people. You might not though, because if you’re a good enough liar then you’ll be able to see reasons for and against lying. If you don’t, however, you’ll have one person who knows the whole truth, and it’ll feel good.
Bit of personal advice – if you’re going to do this, tell it to a really good friend. Not a partner or teacher or parent. Preferably somebody who would never tell anyone, even if you guys have a fight. Also maybe someone who’s secrets you also know, so that you have their back to stab just in case (the previous comment might sound horrible, but it’s mainly that they’re less likely to tell everybody that you’re lying rather than that you’ll get your revenge… In fact, I’d suggest never getting your revenge if at any point they tell someone – shows who’s a decent person and who isn’t). Most importantly: don’t lie to them, and if you do pluck up the courage to say so. It’s absolutely crucial that you get this right. (also make sure it’s someone you actually know, not a person on the Internet, like me)
Anyway, I hope this reply helps. I don’t think this is usual behavior. I mean do you see people telling such things this often? It’s not common, but you’re not alone. I’m not sure I’ll be the best help you can get since I’m a pathological liar myself and also find it kinda cool, but I’ll try best I can and I’m here if you need me. After all, we’re in the same situation.
To be honest with you I’m also very excited that I’m not on my own out there. And the fact that our stories are so similar is pretty damn amazing.
Final note – I really hope that’s not your real name. That could be destructive (very) later.
Best of luck.