Sam

If you feel you need to find someone who will agree to have sex with you, already there you’re out.. I’m a sex addict and have for all my life spent hours and hours every day on pornography, hookup ads, prostitution websites, and in the end, for me the biggest kick was to keep myself preoccupied with this, not getting laid, I’ve not met a lot of people and had sex with them, the kick was in the expectations of doing it.

I’m a very lonely person, on the inside, nobody would probably believe me if I told them, got lots of friends and aquintances, on the outside I am probably seen as a very social person. Though in reality my loneliness is the drive in this, and it’s always been, for my entire life.

I’m married, with a wife who has serious intimacy problems (intimacy as sharing her world and thoughts) and who, probably as a result of this, is not very interested in sex either.

Finding out the dynamics behind all this has helped me understand that I’m finally at the point where I need to do something about myself, this has nothing to do with “anyone who will agree to” anything, it’s about me, and I need to agree to the fact that I’m broken, and a quick fix, getting laid with my wife, paying a hooker, a blowjob from internet dating, etc. etc. will never fix this, it’s me who’s broken.

I’ve been “sober” for two weeks now, it’s terrible, I’ve decided to minimize masturbation to not end up wanking compulsively all the time. The loneliness is now manifesting itself, and that’s the point, time to handle the real feelings, not kill them with my favourite drug…

Good luck!

I don’t get this at all. The whole reason I am sexually lonely is I can’t find anyone who will agree to have sex with me unless I pay. I couldn’t be “addicted to sex” unless I was having sex right? And if I could have sex, I wouldn’t BE lonely.