As far as cross dressing or whatnot, there’s a woman passing too much judgment on the clothes a man is or should be wearing when he is or becomes aroused, assuming he’s in that sort of a relationship with some particular woman and her opinion is so important as to be legally enforced and binding upon him.

A man’s lack of arousal or total disinterest in the style of clothing he is wearing might on the other be more indicative of depression if he’s not very interested in wearing the clothes being sold to him or picked out or chosen for him by a woman with whom he supposedly desires a relationship.

What kind of clothes a man is wearing or what makes him feel manly — that’s rather tall to consider it a disorder.

“The life is more than meat, and the body is more than raiment.” — Luke 12:23.

If you FORCE an unwanted sexual act on someone, isn’t that a form of Rape?

I’m very sorry to hear that. Crossdressing in itself is not a disorder. But if he becomes violent and causes suffering in some way, it becomes a disorder (literally, by definition). I can imagine that it’s difficult for everyone and therapy may be necessary separately for everyone involved, because it’s a very, very, very deep personal issue.

Finding a therapist specialized specifically in transvestic disorder may be difficult, but maybe you could look around for a therapist or a therapy center for general transgender-related issues. They don’t just deal with gender reassignment, but also with issues surrounding that like crossdressing. After all, if they can’t distinguish a crossdresser from a transsexual, they wouldn’t be experts.

I wish all of you the best, and hope that your inner and outer conflicts can be reconciled.

if only it was that simple. Maybe its just my partner because he has a high sex drive, but every breathing moment is about dressing up as a woman. Buying sanitary pads squirting blood into them. 12 bin bags full of women’s underwear, two wardrobes of women’s clothes. No spontaneous sex as he has to dress up as a woman … no consideration that I’m not a lesbian. He became violent in the end and I felt coerced into performing sex acts. Wearing a strap-on over my pregnant belly was a low point as I had to be the man most of the time.
I went along with this because I loved him then I realised how selfish he is and how obsessed.
We hit hard times but the spending on himself and women’s clothes still continued. Parcel after parcel would arrive and I couldn’t even afford nappies. That’s when you know it’s a problem. Like alcohol it just came first. An addiction. My daughter found all his images on WhatsApp recently and she’s upset she might lose her daddy. She’s 12 years old and very confused.
His sexual fetish comes before Everything.
Everything.

It’s not selfless if the cross dressing is hidden from family. Women are understandably devastated when they eventually find out, which they usually do, because they realise their partner is not who they thought they were and there is a significant amount of deceit that goes into keeping such a big secret. You can’t expect a partner to accept it straight away, because of that. A lot of the time, I think it’s not the cross dressing that is the issue, it’s the fact that your partner has lied to you. That’s certainly how I felt when I found out about my own partner. I am accepting of it, but the hurt will take a long time to get over. And accepting it is my choice, not something I am obliged to do. A woman has the right to decide if she can live with this or not and, if she decides she can not, she should be respected for that choice and not vilified.