Comments on: Grief: why don’t I feel anything? Sometimes, instead of experiencing a flood of emotions, people become emotionally numb

By: Andrew

Andrew — Sun, 28 Feb 2021 16:49:49 +0000

Hi I understand completely .20 years ago my brother died.i felt nothing .my sister passed away about 2 weeks ago I found out by the obituary.yesterday.tje same thing.4 years ago my dearest friend passed away.i cryed when my mother and father died I cryed I think it’s something to do with how I was brought up. Andrew

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 00:57:19 +0000

Just over a year ago, a friend asked if I would go to Amsterdam with him and I said “no” because it didn’t interest me. He committed suicide several months back and apparently they found a list of things he wanted to do before he killed himself, and going to Amsterdam with me was one of only three things he hadn’t crossed off.

He was my best friend. We met each other when we were seven years old and our friendship lasted for over thirty years. We were Best Men at each others’ weddings. He was the first person I ever got drunk with and, when times were hard, he was the only one who offered me a room, when I could have gone homeless.

I cried briefly when I heard the news but have felt nothing since that day. My life has simply gone on as though nothing has happened. Sometimes I read his old emails to me, or I stare at his number on my phone, and I realize it will never ring again, but I feel nothing. I don’t know if this is normal or whether I’m not right in the head.

I wish I had gone to Amsterdam with you, Mark.

By: Thriveworks Assistant

Thriveworks Assistant — Tue, 16 Feb 2021 17:52:19 +0000

In reply to Zoey Clark.

We’re so sorry to read what you’re going through. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, or thinking about hurting yourself or others, please seek immediate help. Call 911, go to your closest emergency room, or call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. You can also visit their website at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. This national network of local crisis centers provides free support, and someone is always available to talk.

You can also find a list of other helpful resources here, such as the Crisis Text Line, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and more. Remember, life can get better with the right help. https://twx.atlantacounseling.com/immediate-help/

By: Zoey Clark

Zoey Clark — Sun, 14 Feb 2021 21:35:04 +0000

I lost my son March 10th 2019 at 4 months old. SIDS was the cause of death. I haven’t held or been around children or babies since I lost my son. My brother and his girlfriend are about to have a kid and he wants me to hold her when she born I respectfully told him no. Being around other kids and babies brings up feelings I’m not strong enough to handle. I’ve attempted to take my own life 8 times since I lost my son I’m not proud of it but I just want the pain to go away. My meds don’t work my doctor looks at me like I’m stupid and tells me how I feel instead of actually helping me. My family walks on egg shells because none of them had ever lost a child before. I haven’t cried or shown any emotion since we put my son in the ground. I lost my marriage over this and a lot of friends. I’ve given up on dating now I just throw myself into my work. I don’t socialize anymore. Got rid of all social media deleted every contact in my phone besides my mothers and go to work and straight home only stop at the store when needed. I know it doesn’t sound healthy but its how I cope.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 22 Jan 2021 03:13:04 +0000

My mom passed 6yrs ago this may. It was the single most painful thing that ever happened to me , i then lost my grandma and grandpa in the next year, but now when someone else is grieving for someone I feel nothing. I’m completely useless in that area. My husband’s dad is dying he might not last the weekend. And I feel so bad that I don’t have any emotions. I’m completely numb. He hated his dad and he was a horrible person. But my husband is so hurt. I hate that I feel like there’s something missing in me that died when I lost the most amazing mom. it’s the part that feels hurt and sorrow and empathizes with others when their sad. I wonder if it is normal.

By: Prapti

Prapti — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 21:05:38 +0000

I lost a friend by suicide after meeting her (email, not video) online and talking to her. She was my best friend and every day I think ab if what I’m doing is what she wanted for me. I’m almost 13 and I’m dealing with this grief (not for pity, just fyi). She’s turning 15 this year and I’m going to celebrate by myself (no one except 1 friend knows ab this). I miss her every day.

By: allison wolf

allison wolf — Tue, 08 Dec 2020 16:36:42 +0000

In reply to Jeanette Gallagher.

i know exactly how that feels my mom passed 2 days ago and my brother was so broken down and i couldnt feel anything and i still cant feel anything and i havent even been able to cry

By: DEBRA

DEBRA — Tue, 08 Sep 2020 01:09:56 +0000

In reply to Jeanette Gallagher.

Omg i so understand how you feel. I lost my mum in February this year and i feel numb, no emotions, just feel like i am doing what needs to be done each day cause i’m a mum and i have to carry on and look after my family.

By: Jazmine Guzman

Jazmine Guzman — Sun, 23 Aug 2020 15:07:41 +0000

my dad passed away a few days ago, i haven’t seen him in about 4 years because my parents are divorced. i feel numb. i feel like i should be more sad but that’s not the case. i feel that maybe i feel this way because i haven’t seen him in years so nothing has changed. i don’t even know what to feel.

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 04:59:48 +0000

My cat was hit by a car the day before Fourth of July. I miss her but also feel a dark hole. I hardly cry about her or anything. But I feel bad like I SHOULD be crying over her.

By: Thriveworks Editor

Thriveworks Editor — Mon, 20 Jul 2020 12:59:56 +0000

In reply to kristina ketley.

I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through. If you are at risk of hurting yourself or others, please immediately call 911 or go to the nearest Crisis Center or Emergency Room.

By: Browner

Browner — Mon, 20 Jul 2020 06:59:00 +0000

I read this post your post so nice and very informative post thanks for sharing this post

By: Jeanette Gallagher

Jeanette Gallagher — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 23:50:44 +0000

My mum passed away 10 wks ago and I can’t feel anything I spent my life with her but I can’t feel her is this normal I can’t remember her or miss her

By: kristina ketley

kristina ketley — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 20:10:55 +0000

I know im not my self but don’t know much else like im here but im not some days want to take my own life would be easier and i would be happier.

By: Darrien Hansen

Darrien Hansen — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:51:16 +0000

I like that you mentioned the importance of speaking to a mental health professional about your grief if you feel like you are experiencing issues with your mental health. Ever since my brother passed away due to an illness last month, I have unable to have the motivation to go to work anymore and often spend the day lying in bed. It may be best for me to find a grief support specialist to help me improve my mental state.