I was emotionally incested. It took me years to discover why I had the same symptoms as sexual abuse survivors. But when I finnally accepted that I was actually hurt and it was not all in my head and I was not the problem. Then healing could happen. I currently do EMDR therapy. I can’t reccomend it highly enough. EMDR essentially consists of, using painful beliefs and memories as doorways into past suppressed trauma. The aim, during a session, is to stay present in both the sensations of the past (when I felt unsafe) and the present (where I am safe) and watch both without judgement. This allows me to reprocess past information and allows the “stuck” parts of me to integrate into my conscious self. It has been super effective for me. The day or two after an EMDR session can be difficult, but I see a change in my relationships, with myself and with others.

I thik it is essential to speak up about this abuse, because parents don’t mean to do it they just don’t realise that children are not emotinally mature or psycologically developed enough to cope with their needs.