What??

5’4, 175lbs? I think I found the mystery. Shed 40lbs and see if anything changes.

I have a friend that loves me more than anything and I wish with all my heart I could feel some sort of physical connection for him because he is perfect for me and I known him for 12 years and he has been inlove with me half of the time. It would make my life so much easier if I felt attracted to him, but I dont and I have tried and nope, nothing. So in my case no matter what I cant build physical attraction for him.

Not to mention is nothing like passion when you first start a relationship. When you feel connected and have passion for that person and everything in one package. Is the best and I think we all deserve to experience that in life because is nothing like it.

The guy that I dated recently is physically unattractive. He was extremely funny and the sweetest guy I’ve ever met but he was inexperienced and lacked confidence in himself; which was definitely upsetting for me because I liked to be taken care of. He would give me everything I needed without hesitation but I ended up feeling like I was using him because I wasn’t physically attracted to him. But emotionally I was so fulfilled. We later had sex and because of his weight it was very uncomfortable for me. I had to do everything (obviously tell him I wanted to kiss him, then give him his first kiss, tell him I wanted to sleep with him, and then deliver, which was literally nearly physically impossible, which freaked me out.) I think I also saw myself in him, because I’m insecure of my weight, and a part of me felt like the terrible time in bed was my fault (even tho he was just nervous) and I never wanted to experience that again so I broke up with him. I realized after that night that I didn’t enjoy his kisses as much and I figured it just meant it was time to move on since we’d only been dating a month. But now I feel this every present pain because I miss him in my life so much but I don’t know if I should just let him go or if maybe I was too hasty and I should give him another chance. I’ve never emotionally connected with anyone like that before and I’m stuck feeling like I’ll never click with somebody like that again. But another part of me wants him to experience more and date me when he has a little more confidence in himself but that’s also selfish of me so I’m left feeling like maybe letting him go is the best option… even if it’s not a favorable one. I think this was a dealbreaker for me bc of my emotional state.

I met him as a coworker in a factory setting although I am a former model he never knew of this

I became widowed and I’ve gained weight but throughout everything he has been my best friend

His mother loves me to death she even told me she accused him of being gay at sometime in the past years because he does not bring women around

He is sweet and loving

But for over 30 years I’m used to a guy helping me with his Boner in the morning grabbing me and kissing me passionately and he does none of this

If I tried to kiss him he Howells for his mother in a joking way saying that I’m molesting him which is funny I guess

All I want is if you times a week for him to look in my eyes kiss me for like 20 minutes which he does not kiss lick my pussy and fuck the shit out of me and get that connection that like physical connection

I became widowed last year and I broke up with him for a month his mother told me he was going to ask for my hand in marriage

Prior to the break up

We now live together and I have a completely I’ve tried aggressively with regards to sex I please him but he does nothing for me I love him and would not want to be his wife someday but he does nothing to my body

I do not want to break up with them and I am willing to sacrifice any sexual pleasure until I die but this sucks

This scares me as someone in this situation. So are you saying the relationship is doomed?

Omg I feel like you are me. I just turned 50, my BF of two years says he hasn’t had sex drive in several years, but talks about how sexually active he was his whole life. He says it started when he got diabetes, but I think it’s mental. He looks at every thin woman who passes by him (I am 5’4” and weight 175) He says he loves me and I believe him, but I don’t know if I can take the feeling of rejection for the rest of my life. I try to push it out of my mind, but it’s really difficult. Did you get married?

This is clearly a man’s view on a woman’s thought process and the two do not go hand in hand. If you reject a woman sexually or do not initiate sex with a woman she will take that as you are not attracted to her. At first she will attempt to make herself more sexually alluring with the hopes that you initiate sex. If that doesn’t work the woman will feel rebuffed, sexually unattractive and unloved and begin to withdraw from the man until her feelings turn into a more brother/sister relationship than a man and wife relationship.

I totally agree that physical attraction can grow over time. But in some cases, it can’t be helped. That’s why you need to have your own basic preference as a guideline. So that you didn’t need to waste your “future partner” time and feeling.